In my 30-something years of life on this beautiful planet of ours, I have had many life lessons. Some made me cry, some made me happy, and some left me thinking, “what the hell am I supposed to learn from this?”
From my lessons, I realize that I had to make changes, so I’ve tweaked some things, and as I continue to grow, I will add more to the list.
This list is only ten out of the MANY, MANY things that I have done and will do for myself. I hope that, if you haven’t done these things for yourself yet, that you will put it on your bucket list. It has helped me out tremendously and I pray that it will help you the same way.
♥I stopped trying to help people who didn’t want to be helped. This was a big one for me. I am an empath, a strong one at that. I feel things stronger and deeper than most people. It has been both a blessing and a curse. With being an empath, I ALWAYS took on the problems of others. I wanted to fix their problems so they could be happy again. It was a burden for me to offer someone my time, energy, money, tears, advice, etc. just for that person to keep on doing the very thing that was causing them grief. I couldn’t take it anymore. I had to be true to myself. So, I made a promise to myself that I would only help those who were willing to accept it and actually do something to change their lives.
♥I cut down on alcohol. For those of you who know me, you know that I love me a good drink. I have had a strong drink every night for the past 5-6 years. I didn’t drink enough to feel that I should be a member of AA, but I knew that it wasn’t healthy either. So, I made up my mind and I did a seven day fast from any and all alcohol. For the first two or three days, I was tempted to pour a glass, but I held my ground. Now, I only have a small drink on Fridays and Saturday nights only. At some point in the future, I may quit altogether, but for now, this is a huge accomplishment for me. I am proud of myself! (Bonus: My sleep is better and I can remember my dreams a lot more).
♥Dry Brushing. Yes!! I am a lover of skin care. I love looking up ways to make your skin looking beautiful. Dry skin brushing is one of the best things you can do for the largest organ of your body. Here is a link so you can read all about the benefits. Every morning, after I brush my teeth and wash my face, I grab my natural bristle brush and I brush over my whole body for about five minutes. It only takes a moment to do, but after doing it for the past few weeks, my skin has felt softer and I feel happier knowing that I am doing something beneficial for my body.
♥I do mirror work daily! I mean, I get down!! Why is this important to me? Because once upon a time, after being in an abusive relationship, I couldn’t stand looking at myself in the mirror. I hated my reflection. I thought I was ugly, worthless, and unlovable. Now, I love the woman staring back at me. I enjoy dancing to my favorite songs (Beyoncé’s songs get me moving), making crazy faces, admiring my beauty, and laughing at myself. I’ve come a long fucking way and I’m in love with who I am now! It’s one the highlights of my day. When was the last time you were able to have a great time with yourself…butt-ass naked?
♥I stopped caring about those who didn’t care about me. This was also a big one for me. I used to wonder why someone didn’t like me. I used to wonder what was wrong with me. I used to try my hardest to make them happy so they could love/care for me. Not anymore! It took me some time to learn this lesson, but the moment I did, that was the moment I felt a bit more freedom in my life. We cannot make everyone like us. Most people don’t even love themselves, let alone love someone else. Think about this way: out of the seven billion people that reside on this planet, are you really going to give your power away to one person or a handful of people because you want them to love/like you? Who cares if they don’t like you or show you affection/attention? Focus on the people who show you love, who care about you, and think you are the best thing since sliced bread! Fuck the rest!
♥I am actively increasing my Spirituality. I have always believed in GOD and I have always felt His presence in my life. If people were to ask me now what religion I follow, I answer them, “My religion is Love!” Spirituality, in my opinion, is the true connection with The Most High. Religious dogma is nothing but a set of rules trying to control the masses, ”your way is wrong, so you’re going to hell.” That’s not love…that is fear based. God is nothing like that. I am NOT trying to change your beliefs or challenge them. Believe what you feel is right for you and your salvation. I have begun reading about Angels, Buddhism, Meditation, etc. I have been told I have the gift of prophecy on my life and I believe it 110%. I am learning to trust my intuition and every once and again, I get an insight for someone and I share with them what I feel needs to be heard. I find it very inspiring to me when someone tells me how I have made an impact in their lives. I am a work in progress, and I love every step of it. Spirituality will ALWAYS be a major part of my life.
♥I pick my battles and win the war! I used to just speak my damn mind. Okay, I still do, but now I only say something after I think if it’s worth it or not. We will all have that moment where we go home and think about, “oh, I should’ve said this!” Why? It already happened, now let it go. Pick your battles. Every conflict that arises doesn’t need your say-so about it. Take a deep breath and see if it’s worth your time, energy, and attention. It takes time to learn how to do this, I will warn you! It took me some time to learn how to bite my tongue. But now that I do, it has made my life so much easier. Yes, I may still get pissed off from the situation, but I honestly ask myself if it’s worth it or not. Sometimes, it’s not! Let it go…pick your battles.
♥I became more aware of my thoughts and how they shape my reality. I remember when I first heard of the law of attraction. I thought to myself, “what a load of shit!” But as I continue to read about it and realize that it does indeed exist, rather we want to believe it or not, I began to monitor my thoughts daily. At first, it was a struggle. It was damn near exhausting to monitor the all of the thoughts that I had in one day. Then I learned that I don’t have to attend to them all. I simply needed to be aware that they were there. Some didn’t require my attention, while others did. The ones that I gave attention to were the ones I felt needed to be addressed if I wanted to make some changes within myself and my life. What you think about yourself inside will manifest on the outside. For example, if you think that you are not worthy, you will attract that into your life through people who will walk all over you and treat you like a doormat. If you don’t believe that you are worthy of respect, love, and appreciation, you will continue to allow them to treat you as such. Being aware of my thoughts has greatly changed me and it will only continue to change me daily.
♥I began to drink more water. Yea, yea, yea!! You hear it about it every day from the health fanatics, but I’m telling you, it is something important to do for your life. If you can’t stand the taste of regular water, add some fruit or cucumber to it and give it some flavor. I don’t have to go into details about how it hydrates you, helps clear your skin, makes you shed weight, increases mental clarity, or gives you energy…there are plenty of articles out there that will tell you that. But I will tell you that you will feel a difference. I drink at least 6 to 8 cups daily and I love the benefits. Go get you some H2O, dammit!
♥I pray and meditate daily. I have always believed in the magic of prayer. Even if I say them quietly in my mind, I am always sending up a message to God and my angels. It’s only been recently that I’ve picked back up with meditating. Praying is talking to God and Meditating is listening to Him, in my opinion. When I meditate, I silence my mind. It takes some time to learn to do this. While we are on this topic, let me clear this up for you right now, your mind will always be “on.” It will constantly chatter. This is called the monkey mind. So, if you shy away from meditating because you feel you think too much, this is the perfect reason to start your practice. You will continue to think, but you will begin to just become an observer and train yourself to not react to everything that your mind thinks. Got it?
There are plenty of other things that I have done for myself that help me in many ways, but these ten things are the top ten that I turn to when I need to take that next step. Even though they may seem simple, (and they really are) they bless me within and without.
What things have you done/are ding to help you out physically, spiritually, and mentally? Let us know…share the wealth!
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